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Season of Self Love

Season of Self Love

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I was going to call it Summer of Self Love but thought no, it needs to be longer and even Season of Self Love is too short,it really should be seasons!!

As many of you know that have followed me or my blog food and healthy food, / eating has been a big part of my life, food has also been one of my biggest challenges in my life – from not eating to binging to in my earlier years body obsessed to strict eating guidelines (raw foods only) to letting go of any and all rules and names (vegan,raw, foodie etc) to coming to pretty much a neutral place.

I even gave up trying to convince others they shouldn’t eat this or that or telling them what they should eat.  I feel so much lighter.  I also gave up trying to be perfect – that was a big one for me.

We are all so different when it comes to body shapes, body sizes, our genes (to a certain degree) and our likes and dislikes.

The base for me still resides in as close to nature as possible – clean and organic but I also have really allowed myself to be human and know I’m not perfect and stop being so hard on myself.

Believe it or not how and what we eat, really does say much about how we love ourselves.

Now I totally understand some people never have an issue with food, their bodies or self love, but I’m not talking to those people.

I want to connect and share my thoughts, messages and journey with the ones that have and are struggling with food issues, body issues, low self esteem issues.

I think back over my life and all the time I wasted on working out trying to get my thighs thinner – now please don’t misinterrupt what I am saying here, there is a difference between an obsession, loathing your self or your body and being healthy happy and free of that and still wanting to be, feel and look healthy.

What is the difference and fine line?

I turned 50 in December and right around the same time I put o an extra 10 lbs.  First time in my life where my eight has been heavier and not coming off.  Yes I’m in menopause, and I have readers (wth where did the time go!!??)  It actually brought up the last of my body issues that I hadn’t fully embraced.

Could I still love myself enough even with some extra weight,some cellulite?  I was eating healthy, getting some exercise – ok not like I used too when I was younger, working out daily, waitressing (so running around) and then 2 young children – busy young children (more running around).  I did work at my computer more, read more, and took life a little slower after being so busy for years.

I also wasn’t having really any other side effects other than the odd little night sweat, so quite frankly I could live with a few extra pounds – but I still had some demons – not feeling good, enough or sexy.  My clothes were tighter, I could see my body shifting.

Perfect – what better time then now to really let go of that bs yes bullshit and belief systems on my body defines who I am.

I love taking care of it, I love feeling good,healthy, radiant, alive but it’s not who I am.

It’s the place that my soul calls home.

And just like the house we live in, we do need to take care of it so it looks nice (or not),  and make it our home so we are comfy in it,surrounding ourselves with things we like.

Would we spend much time in a place we didn’t like? Maybe temporarily to save for your ‘dream’ home or one that better suits you, unless money is a major factor for where and how we live, we can still decorate the inside of it to be our temple.

What are the ways to take care of you that maybe you have forgotten or left behind?

For me I am and have started to love me just for me – I’m here, alive, unique and instead of trying to fit in, focusing on my gifts, joy, love and more fun.  Each day is difference but I do something daily that uplifts my spirits, that nurtures me, that feeds my soul – how do I know? It just feels good.

I might go for a walk in the rain forest here or shoot a sunset – one I’ve shot many times but it always brings me joy, connect with an old friend, take an afternoon cat nap, learn a new tool in Photography, have my toes painted – love having colourful toes in the summer, send a love note to my honey, yoga for the sake of connecting and feeling my body not for exercise.  That one alone feels so good and different.

Just like the sunsets and sunrises that I love to catch – they are never the same.  To some people they may be, but not to me.  Each moment, each day is new, so are they and so am I – I get to choose  – why not choose beauty and love.

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Maybe it’s my age that I’ve come more into me and some moments I almost wish I could go back in time and take my wisdom, self love and knowledge back to my earlier years so that I wouldn’t waste all that energy on fighting my body, hating it or abusing it.

I look forward to posting more on these topics and more especially for women as it’s totally out of control now.

Seeing the younger generation with food, body issues and dieting really saddens me – it’s incredible what marketing and advertising can do to us.  Yet it’s not just them, it’s women in general.

Start adding in sprinkles of self love and self nurturing no matter how busy you are, cause if you don’t you may be forced to at some point in your life and trust me that way is not always fun!!

Have an amazing day and create some more self love for YOU!!!

Jodi

xo

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Diet

Have you ever really looked at that word and gave it some thought?

Diet………hmmm makes you wonder eh??

If you google diet, kinds of diets, type of diets……..OMG…..yet most of them are fads or we wouldn’t have so many of them.

Two things I have done to make my food experience better, well 3 but we’re going to talk about 2 here today and the third I’ll share shortly as they are all important I think.

One was to eliminate the word diet, as we know what word is in there and it’s restrictive.  When I restrict myself or tell myself I can’t or shouldn’t have that, well guess what?? You probably guess right!! I have the type of personality for the most part I don’t like to be told I can’t have something especially when it comes to food.  Now, I can choose not to want it or eat it which is totally different…..see what I mean?  There is no restriction but choice, big difference.

We all know inside it’s calories in calories out, the type of calories make a big difference.  If you are anything like me I don’t have time or care to count calories, just like texting I can’t keep track of how many give me unlimited please!!

Now that is not to say that is card blanche for go ahead eat anything and everything and lots of it, I just found it became easier and easier to let alot of unhealthy foods go and that need to overeat at times left too as I wasn’t denying myself anything. I gave myself permission to be.

When you clean up the way you eat, by eating healthier, whole foods, you don’t want those foods that have all the fat, calories and additives which are empty and nutritionally deprived.  Clean it up and get rid of the word ‘diet’, choose healthier eating, healthier living, healthier being or I’m eating for me……whatever works just stop using the word diet or I’m on a diet!!

The other thing I did along time ago, like before I had kids, was to throw out my scales.  Did I really need to know the number? Who cares?? I stopped looking at those numbers as we know how we feel in our bodies, in our clothes…..don’t we??  I used to weigh myself every day and alot of times not just once………talk about a mind f@%^*!!!!  Those numbers could mess with my head and make or break my day…..that is not the way it should be.

This time of the year my jeans get a little snugger, it’s winter, I’m not out as much I mean it’s dark by 4:30 here for a few months and I don’t do the gym thing really and that is how it works for me.  I didn’t say tight, I say snug. and I can live with that as I know it will come off shortly too once the spring is here.  We are like animals in some ways and need a little more fat in the cold months BUT I don’t need to see how much!! lol

Common sense here and doing things maybe differently.  Stop saying diet and if you find yourself weighing yourself often or you gt upset by the numbers on the scale, get rid of it.  Do you really need that type of anxiety??

Break the pattern……..make it a great and healthy day!!

JB

 

Getting Off Yo Yo Dieting

Getting Off Yo Yo Dieting

How many times have you started a ‘diet’ only to find yourself craving the foods you said you wouldn’t eat any longer or doing good for a few hours or a couple of days then gorging on almost anything in the evening?  Or just having a bite of something ‘forbidden’ then feeling guilty, eating it all, then feeling even more guilt and then just letting lose eating anything and everything?  Or trying one of the qazillion ‘diets’ out there only to find that you are eating the same thing day in and day out……how fun or nutritious is that??

I thought eating somewhat healthy was common sense, but due to all the different ‘diets’ out there, all the mis leading advertising….low fat, high protein etc etc, eat for your blood type or eye color or depending on what beach you live on, it can be quite confusing to say the least!!!  And if you follow the food pyramid – Standard American Diet….SAD or even some dieticians, it can be overwhelming.

As I am writing this I am sitting in a funky cafe on the Sea to Sky Hwy and it’s so cool to see what this cafe is offering for food.  Healthy yet simple things and the place is packed……my kind of vibe!!  They make a killer Green drink too!!

Over the next couple of weeks, my goal is to focus on some easy, sensible, simple, yet effective changes one can make in one’s way of eating  ( and even thinking) so that diet is NO LONGER a part of one’s vocabulary or way of living……because it sucks!!!!

I will be providing more recipes on healthy, natural and nutritious yet simple to do recipes so that making changes or substitutions can be done easily and have the ability to stick to them.

But we are going to even do more than that as it can and will extend out in other areas of your life as well.

It begins with your thoughts……about food, your body and even your life (work, relationships, pleasures)

Eating should be fun, joyful, nutritious and even involve the senses.  I know not everyone likes to be a chef in the kitchen or doesn’t always have the time, BUT in my world I believe that when we do take the extra time it pays off in how we feel .  Before you know it it becomes part of our routine or habit and it’s not alot of effort.  If we don’t put care into what and how we feed our body (and even our minds) then how can we expect to live a quality life??

I joke often that women put more attention on getting their nails and hair done or even facials and men more time on their vehicles yet totally ignore what they put into their bodies.

Quality vs Quantity.

Calories / Nutrition in vs Calories / Nutrition out.

When we can transition to healthier ways of eating and thinking, then times like New Years become less important as we won’t have the cycle of in the moment (and usually after a couple of drinks :)) of making these great changes only to find by the end of January we are back to doing and eating and thinking the same old same old.

So, it’s the beginning of September, kids are going back to school and there’s no time like NOW to start making today a great day and eating healthier.

Have a great long weekend and check by for more recipes and inspiration and motivation for transforming YOUR body, YOUR mind and YOUR life……..as when we eat healthier, we think healthier, we feel healthier and well life just gets better!!!!

JB